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Spiritual Teaching on Divorce and Remarriage.
There is a belief that happy marriages are seen or mostly occur in a situation whereby spouses specialize in gender typical roles and are focused and attentive to needs to be accomplished by each spouse e.g. divorces are rare in marriages whereby the woman accepts the role of child-bearing & caring and the husband concentrates on bread-winning.
Fracture in Marriages.
The world has changed to a great extent. In most countries people have got access to education than they did a century ago. Because of the great awareness, people now know their civil rights and freedoms.
The problem now arises when those rights or freedoms are used to justify grounds for divorce. For instance, there are many cases of divorce whereby the grounds yielding to divorce are lack of compatibility, differences in careers, decrease in love or differences in social, economic and political beliefs & inclinations.
This poses a great danger to the children involved and more to the institution of marriage.
Remarriages are also common when such person who divorces on above grounds, go forth looking for a perfect mate to fill the gap or satisfy their personal tastes.
There are some situations whereby a person may divorce and remarry more than once and such situations are on the rise. This is not only alarming to God‘s original intention of marriage and the family unit but leads to poor state of the family especially the children who are involved in such situations.
Biblical justification of divorce.
Biblical Grounds for Divorce.
The bible/Christian community has cases whereby divorce is justified. Otherwise God original intention is for marriages to be a life time commitment,
“till death do as a part”.
“in sick or god health”
“I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “because the man who divorces his wife covers his garment with violence,”
God intends to preserve human race and specifically the today society and also posterity through preservation of marriages.
That’s why marriage is ordained by God. This means that God helps sustain marriages by bringing understanding, happiness and fulfillment of necessities among the married spouses. It also interprets that God will help in the reconciliation of spouses who are facing difficulties or here estranged.
The Bible is clear on divorce with only two grounds that a marriage can be annulled and the parties involved given a green-light to remarry. They include:
Adultery. When adultery is committed day a spouse, then divorce is allowed.
The second ground is explained by Saint Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:15. It explains that a party to marriage can divorce and remarry in the event that an unbelieving spouse leaves a believer. This can be interpreted to situations whereby a spouse torments or tortures his/her partner e.g. wife battery. This harassing could range to physical to mental abuses
We all agree that God’s intended way of procreating and raising offspring was through the flesh of a man and a woman. That is the spiritual basis which Christians use to oppose same sex marriage. This may also be true across other religions.
There are many non-believers who do not profess Christianity or other religions or people who have little faith in Christianity or in other religions. Yet, these people greatly oppose same sex marriage. Of course, the reasoning of such people is not based on only religions teachings.
Non-religions reasons for opposing same sex marriage.
Today, if you are told, for instance, to design a system, may be a prototype, or a cheat which will outline how children will be raised well, in a disciplined manner and in an environment where they are able to enjoy all their rights & freedoms and where they are provided with all the needs which pertain to healthy children, then you’ll find the system you come up with include a mother& a father. There could be others, of course, but the above system is the most ideal to provide children with all the love, support and care they require as they grow.
Also the fact that there is biological connection between children & parent proves the logic that be children will be at a better position of identifying themselves with their parents and naturally the parents will be at a position to sacrifice all at the disposal (mental, physical and emotional) so that the children are successfully raised to be responsible in the society.
Some of the arguments against same-sex marriage which don’t have religions grounds include:
Children will mostly hunger much for biological parents.
In same-sex marriages, lesbians will be the most likely couples to have kids, than gays. These kids would love to be identified by their fathers and mothers and will certainly need to know whom they are. Also in most cases, children always need to know more about their parents. This interprets that they feel more secure being with biological parents.
There is fear that children raised by homosexual parents may have problems with gender and sexual orientation.
There is fear that same-sex marriage would lead to the rise of infidelity in marriages and also weaken the structure of marriage in the event that the matrimonial union between the couples is severed.
Parenting of same-sex marriage maybe inadequate to kids in the event that the child needs a father who absent among lesbians or a mother absent among gays.
Sexually transmitted diseases are found to be on the rise among same-sex communities hence a lot of opposition.
Today, civil laws in several ways has redefined and legitimately allowed the union of people of the same gender /sex. This does not concur or augur well with God’s pre-defined plan for sexuality and marriage of Christians.
According to Genesis 1:26-28 (KJV)
“26 And God said; Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”
When God created a helper for Adam, he created” a woman (Eve) and that was the partnership God saw and deemed perfect.
The man and woman partnership was so perfect that Adam had thoughts about it:
According to Genesis 2:23 (KJV):
“ And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Sexual intimacy in marriage.
Sexual intimacy involves bonding of both emotional and physical feelings. The normal bonding for human beings should be between a man and a woman , because that is the way God wanted humans to procreate and reproduce offspring.
Also man and woman are designed in a way that they correspond appropriately for sexual intimacies. This means that a man can only be complemented by a woman and the reverse is true according the bible.
It should be noted that the original intention of reproduction was through sexual relationship between a man & a woman.
So what could have gone sour for human to embrace same sex marriage?
Today, same-sex marriage is still a hot and controversial issue and it is not accepted on all walks of the earth. The proponents and believers have always sought for same-sex rights to be recognized constitutionally by civil laws as basic human rights.
There is a lot of argument that same-sex marriage be accorded all the benefits and advantages, enjoyed by heterosexual marriages. Such benefits include:
- Public celebrations and acknowledgements.
- Legal protection for children
- Legal recognition, protection and security by the laws of the land.
Yet, there is a lot of opposition because same-sex antagonists feel that by allowing same-sex marriage to be legitimate, then marriage as an institution looses all its purpose and is threatened.
There is also is fear that procreation and the unit of family may be weakened and the results would yield to poor upbringing of kids which will be a threat to the posterity.
Marriage is ordained by God. God intends marriage to be a lifelong commitment. It is matrimonial covenant where a man and a woman establish a relationship to live together in partnership and help each other. The spouses are supposed to live in happiness &contentment. By nature the spouses procreates and are supposed to raise the children in the fear and respect of God. This results to an entity refers to as a family.
God’s authority over marriage.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh,” (Gen 2:24 ESV).
The above verse sets forth God’s intended institution of marriage i.e. one man is supposed to unite with one woman in matrimony and they become one-a family. It also sets forth a platform for sexual union between the spouses which later leads to procreation of their offspring.
” be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over all creation.”(Gen 1: 28).
Changes in the God’s original idea of marriage.
Today civil laws have been enacted to regulate marriage. It’s important to note that civil laws still incorporate most of the biblical teachings and elements of the marriage institution. The regulations enacted give an opportunity for non-believers to enjoy the institution of marriage as God intended.
The civil laws try to strengthen the institution of marriage through various ways which include:
- Legal protection for children who result in the marriages.
- Legal security for the spouses involved.
- Public celebration and acknowledgement of the marriage.
The problem arises because such marriage arrangements alters or undermines the original intention of God towards marriage.
Civil laws have altered several elements in marriage and the most notable one include;
- Legitimately allowing of same-sex marriage.
The rights of same-sex spouses have been advocated for in the recent years and in some countries considerations have been taken to constitutionally accept such arrangements and hence such spouses can marry and enjoy full benefits of marriage.
- Acceptable of divorce.
Civil laws have allowed spouses who lack satisfaction in marriage to be able to legitimately severe them and enter into new or better one. This is as a result of the laws trying to safeguard the rights of freedoms of individuals. Marriage has therefore been transformed from a Godly covenant to a simple partnership contract.
This is a contrast with the Bible. Ideally, spiritual marriage is not based on the interests or conventions or agreements of human rights. The bible sets marriage as divine and the resulting family entity as God’s plan for the world. This makes marriage a God’s covenant. This means that spouses have no room to redefine marriage accordingly to their interest or personal beliefs; instead they should respect and preserve it as instituted by God.